What We Like

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Due to logistics Scarlett and I don’t swing too often. It’s not that we don’t want to it’s that real life often prevents it. The biggest obstacle is that she currently still lives in the east so for most of the time we are in a long distance relationship. We met during college and are recent grads, but due to the current economy working it out so that we are both have a career in the same city is taking longer than we would hope. There’s probably no worse time to be a recent grad than now with the market filled with unemployed people with decades more experience than us. Nonetheless we’re hoping to figure all the logistics by spring/summer to move in together. We try to take as many trips to visit one another as possible and spend most of that time together instead of playing with others. But we both do enjoy the lifestyle so we’ll attend an event or meet with a couple while visiting. And during those events and meetups it becomes very hard to find a couple of which we both enjoy. 

Scarlett is pretty picky but I don’t fault her for this because, and I mean no offense, a lot of the guys in the lifestyle are lacking. For one she enjoys somebody with a nice muscular build,  strong arms, back, and abs. It’s very rare to find a male half of a couple that meets that standard. If you go to a swinger event you’ll likely see a pretty female with a fit sexy body with a guy whose gut is hanging over his belt. My theory on this phenomenon is that these men are spoiled by getting pussy so often in the lifestyle that they don’t see any reason to go through the trouble of staying fit and dressing up nicely. In the non-swing world these guys would have to make that effort to attract females. Because of this I think females in the lifestyle get the short-hand of the stick because the guys don’t work on themselves as much as they do. So I have no issue with Scarlett declining couples because the male half usually doesn’t do it for her. The other issue for our lack of play is the age issue. There are very few couples our age in the lifestyle and most couples seem to be in their 40s. Now personally I have no issue with that and actually prefer to play with MILF when I play separately, but for Scarlett anyone reaching her parent’s age is a deal breaker.

Scarlett likes a young muscular black man with a sense of humor and confidence. She also looks for certain intangibles that make her comfortable with him. To date she’s only played fully with two other males, one single and one as part of a couple. She also is bi and looks for similar qualities in her females. In females she enjoys those with an exotic look, particularly ones from a mixed ethnic background. She’s had much more luck in hooking up with girls in the lifestyle because aforementioned they are more likely to meet her criteria.

My play preference is mature white females (though I certainly wouldn't kick a sexy young girl out of bed). I’m open to both curvy and slim women so as long they have a nicely shaped butt. I am an ass man. There’s a certain PTA housewife look that really gets me going. Because of this fetish and because we are often physically apart I sometimes play separately with married couples. After play I send Scarlett pics and details of the action which she enjoys. One of the more memorable occurrences was when I hooked up with a female in the lifestyle whose relationship was also long distance. We hooked up two webcams so that both he and Scarlett were able to watch the action online as we fucked. I will probably write a more detailed recount of that action, complete with pics,  at a different post.